Translations:Can a husband and wife have equal authority in a marriage?/18/en

1. If the wife countermanded the order of her husband, and told the kids, "Don't get in the car, kids. Stay here," are they obligated to obey her and disobey their father, or vice versa? Please back up your answer with scripture.
2. When he left with the children, did the father commit the crime of kidnapping? Note that under Biblical law, kidnapping is a mandatory death penalty.
3. If the kids refused to obey the father, does he have the Biblical authority to force them to go?